Sex won't make him love you. A baby won't make him stay.

                           I had this one friend who was in love, better yet borderline obsessed with her boyfriend.  In some strange way, I thought their relationship was cute; they had been together from sophomore year up until graduation.  In the beginning of senior year, she got pregnant.  And not surprisingly, she was excited about the pregnancy and even more anxious to start a family of her own.  As her pregnancy progressed and she was getting closer to her due date, the less you saw of her boyfriend.  After having her baby, the father was barely existent and didn’t play much of a role to his daughter as he should.  Here she is, wondering what went wrong, and working three jobs to make ends meet since she’s the only caregiver.  This situation reminded me of MTV’s Teen Mom Maci and her relationship with her ex fiancé and father of her child.  She realized that a baby wouldn’t guarantee a guy would stay.  Their relationship shattered once they realized how hard being a parent was, which is what happens a lot with teens.  A baby is a lot of work, they require much time and patience, and so it’s not surprising that once a baby comes into the picture, maintaining a relationship gets harder.

                            Unfortunately, many teen mothers relationship with the father doesn’t last as expected.  You cant get pregnant and think you’ve trapped someone into being with you because most likely… It won’t work.  That’s another downer to teenage pregnancy, even though you may not feel 100% prepared, you still have that mother’s instinct.  The father on the other hand tends to be less actively involved in their child’s life because they typically don’t take everything as serious as a female would.  After separating, many issues can be involved, such as child support.  Chances are, just like a teenage mother, the father may be jobless, or he may go out & find a job especially because he has to provide, but males don’t feel as obligated as a mother would.  This is why many teen moms have such a heavy burden on them; most of them are single parents of doing things on their own.  Nine times out of ten the mom spends the majority of the time with her child, so the dad’s role isn’t necessarily equal.  Teenagers, especially boys are still not fully matured, so it’s not surprising to see a teen mom being the primary caregiver and the dad still being caught up in his life.

                            Bottom line, pregnancy doesn’t guarantee a lasting relationship now does it guarantee someone will love you.  Teenage mothers face situations like this because of their mindset being that a baby would make things better, or having the mindset that you’ll be one happy family.  Most teenage parents don’t stay together, I can use mine as a prime example.  My mother thought my father would be as equally involved as she.  She thought they would be together forever, but now, I can’t imagine that at all.  Just because you both share the job of being a parent, doesn’t mean that you’ll automatically have a great relationship.